Omama - Opinionated Moms

A team of advisers will review the policy and the military seems on board with the idea of eliminating the policy although it will take the Pentagon a year at least to do so.

Not so sure how I feel about this? Where does our military stand on this issue?

A friend just told me that her husband who is a relatively open minded fellow is totally and completely against gay marriage...which surprised me. I think, live and let live is the way to go on this...far right pishaw!

Cindy McCain has come out supporting GAY MARRIAGE. Wow. Good for her...she is an Opinionated MAMA and I like it! This should not be a partisan issue...it's a civil liberties issue.

Any word on when the Sup. Ct. will rule on letting us see the tapes of the Prop 8 testimony?

I'm so proud! As a future Texan I was nervous that the more conservative views might be too overpowering for my more liberal-sided family, but this has got me excited.

Seems like Rosie picked a winner!

Isn't it interesting that we can have a gay mayor, but in most states gay people can't get married or even have any sort of legal rights as a couple? It seems odd to have sexual orientation be a factor at all in public life. Really, why do we even need to know that this woman is gay? Can't she just be a woman mayor?

Regarding the election of the gay mayor: I am very proud when our country sets aside prejudice and votes for people they believe in. Change does not happen over night, but change is inevitable...we just need to learn to preserve the good and change the bad. Adapt to new challenges and maintain our principles of freedom and equality for all.

Check out all the news from this weekend!

Which states have gay marriage?

Lots to be thankful for in 2009! Love to all of you O-MAMAs!

o.k., so I have to say, I agree he is very talented, but come on? he was totally inappropriate. gay or straight, do you have to be doing sex acts on stage during prime time? he is trying to get media attention...and it worked, so he'll keep doing it until the media ignores him. But, don't you just want to shout, oh just BEHAVE for crying out loud?

Lambert is awesome and soooo talented! Just too cool for daytime...I agree. I'd go see him in concert..probably wouldnt take the kids, though!

why can't people just be...Adam Lambert is gay...he is VERY GAY and very talented...who cares?

adam lambert too gay? do you think some gays are TRYING to act more gay than others?

@mawma2: Personally, I believe that we all come into this world the way God intended. If we are born with blue eyes or brown...if we can see or we are blind...if we discriminate based on who is genetically "perfect" or imperfect, where does it begin or end? We don't have to agree with people's life choices, but maybe we can agree that it is up to the individual. That is what living in a free society is all about...we are free to disagree, but we can't prevent people from having equal rights. Otherwise, we wouldn't be living in the UNITED STATES OF AMERICA, the land of the free and the home of the very brave who defend our rights to live in a free society. We could just say "land of the free who agree with us," but it might not be as inspirational.

Weigh in on Adam Lambert seeming too gay? What do you think?

Has anyone ever pondered this thought? (Possibly, but I would imagine not, because it would be considered too politically incorrect and/or homophobic....which I am not.) However, here goes: A man is born with his "parts" and a woman is born with her "parts". Does anyone believe this to be an accident? I don't. I believe each gender is born with those parts because they were meant to work together. And when a person is born a girl and feels she is living in a boy's body and should really be a boy...or visa versa...isn't this considered to be a type of malfunction in the growth of the embryo inside the womb? I believe it is...and I would think most people would agree with that. My questions then is: Why would it be considered anything but appropriate to believe that when a person is born who is attracted to the same sex...that the reason for this is that something malfunctioned in the growth process of the embryo? And as such, then why should the same privileges of marriage be given to people who were born this way? I do, however, empathize with the plight in life for someone born gay and am all for giving them certain civil rights. But does that mean that they should be given the exact same rights as human beings who arrive in this world as they are genetically intended? Many people think of homosexuals has being the same as heterosexuals, when it's obvious that something went wrong when the embryo was in utero and therefore they are not the same. This does not make me homophobic to believe this way, and I'm not trying to be hurtful or cruel. It's just common sense.

The AMA makes sense...how could you treat a gay soldier properly if you didn't have a complete health history?

This is a civil rights issue that will seemingly take awhile, but make no mistake, it will happen. In the United States of America, each of us is entitled to "life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness." We live in the land of the free, where every citizen is afforded the same liberties and equal rights. Why not gays? This hetero mom doesn't understand how to explain that to my kids?!

@tiredmama: Right On (;

Hooray for the new HATE CRIMES legislation covering gays. It's about time!

@notamama: I know, right? maybe she didn't want to influence her kid one way or the other. Sometimes you can do that just by giving your opinion. Still, she could have just said. Maybe she did and just didn't want to say in the video?? I'm with you though, NOTA....can i call you NOTA for short?

Angry pop is great and I love Spain....all things spanish actually...thus, the call sign! Los espaNoles me encantan y tienen una sociedad muy abierta ademAs!

when Spain legalized gay marriage Spain's Prime Minister Jose Luis Rodriguez Zapatero said, "...We are enlarging the opportunity for happiness to our neighbors, our co-workers, our friends and, our families: at the same time we are making a more decent society, because a decent society is one that does not humiliate its members."

Good discussion, but I wondered why Debbie didn't tell her kids her opinion was. Isn't that what moms do? They teach their kids what they think is right and when they are older decide for themselves? Just curious.

Marriage is a legal deal and a religious deal. Gay has been around since the dawn of mankind and has been in the shadows...that's why it's called coming out. The problem is that people want it just a "bit" out of the shadows, but not all the way. We are trying to figure out how far out of the shadows we are comfortable with as a society. As a mom, I think we have to accept it all the way out of the shadows, right?

correct me if i'm wrong but why does religion even have to come into play?! marriage is a 'legal' thing right? it's a right we have no matter what religion we are. It bugs me so badly that the old repubs are hung up on a word...and by the way it's not just the old repubs. i have 30 something repubs in the my life who aren't even religious and don't like "sharing" the word marriage with homosexuals! unbelievable to me!!!

@angrypop: I guess that is proof that people were gay then, too!

@momof2: So sorry - didn't mean to blow your cover - I wasn't thinking. With all due respect to the devoutly religious - the bible has many versions of marriage, Jacob had multiple wives, there are references to marrying your husbands brother if your husband dies - men are allowed to have wives and mistresses. It saddens me that we push these examples aside and cling to ... Leviticus 18:22: "You shall not lie with a male as one lies with a female; it is an abomination." and this verse which would have us putting homosexuals to death... Leviticus 20:13 "If there is a man who lies with a male as those who lie with a woman, both of them have committed a detestable act; they shall surely be put to death. Their bloodguiltiness is upon them."

@momof2: I have spent the afternoon thinking about your question - why do they need to use the word "marriage" and it suddenly occurred to me that it has the same tone as saying "why do they need to go to our schools - they can have their own separate but equal schools and be happy" Whenever you tell any human being that they don't have the right to have what another human being has - you are in essence telling them that they are a lesser person than you - and in 2009 - humanity should be more advanced than that.

Best sign from the march ...."Liz Taylor had eight husbands legally ...I just want one!" Brilliant!

Check out the new Kitchen Table talk video on Gay Marriage and the article for this week!

@momof3: Hey sista, go sista, soul sista, go sista (I know my gay brothers would approve of a little Patti LaBelle :)

@angrypop: I think we are soul sisters.

I find it very tedious when Christians pick and choose from the bible to push their political agenda - any issues regarding homosexuality fall into this area. Certain people fear different and hide behind a bible verse to make themselves feel better. If we truly were to follow the bible verbatim - we wouldn't eat shellfish, if our husband dies we would have to marry his brother and basically any form of civil rights for women would be out the door. I celebrate my gay brothers and sisters and cannot understand why they don't have the same rights I do. I believe one day we will be ashamed of this injustice just as we currently are of the injustices in our past to African Americans.

As a Republican, I can say, I have to say that I'm with the Dems on this one...I don't give a hoot who you love frankly. BUT, older Republicans might and they've got the $$$$ and the power. Grandma's what do you think?

@SaMoMama: It is not the government's business who we love...not sure why Republicans, who believe in a smaller role for government, don't support this?

@tiredmama: I agree with you....it drives me crazy that the government thinks it's their business that and that they can tell people who they can and cannot marry. Live and let live!!

@SaMoMama: How do you feel about it? I tend to think it is none of my business who someone else loves...

Did you guys hear that the people behind Prop 8 in California are trying to overturn the same sex marriage law in Maine with a ballot initiative? How do you feel about that?

YYEEEASSSSS!! Webisode!!! The subject of gay marriage fires me up!

I'd like to see a debate about Gay Marriage on O-Mama

Thanks for the great idea. We tried...it didn't work! We will try again...I know there is a good video of people getting married that I'd like to post...it really humanizes the debate. Stay tuned...in the meantime, if anyone would like to check it out...please go to www.couragecampaign.org

Please post a link to the Courage Campaign...

How do we convince people that "gay marriage" doesn't destroy the institution of marriage, but DIVORCE destroys the institution of marriage? Why can't we all just focus on that? And, encourage people to commit to one another and their families?