Next time your feel like your teens are out of control, and it’s making you crazy…take a deep breath, please! You’d think it should go without saying that we need to do whatever we can to avoid losing it, like this Florida mom who admitted to shooting her two teens. Sure, sometimes our kids push all the right buttons and we just want them to stop. Julie Schenecker, 50, said that her children were being disrespectful and “mouthy” so she killed them. That’s how she made them stop. She is being charged with first-degree murder for shooting her 13-year-old son, Beau in the car on the way to soccer practice and her 16-year-old daughter, Calyx, in her room while she was doing her homework. Police arrested Schenecker at her home where she sat covered in blood. Her husband, an Army colonel, is on his way back from Qatar.
We tell our kids to ”cry for help,” when they are in trouble. But, what happens when we are in trouble? When we have lost control…there have to be signs…we have to know it’s happening, right? Or, do we just snap? When we need help – get it. If the kids are driving you mad, drive them over to your parents. Take them to the neighbors. Walk away. Call a friend. Call 911. Get some help.
Apparently, this mom didn’t get help and her kids got hurt. There were lots of people who heard the cries for help…directly and indirectly…there were warning signs. Schenecker, was arrested for the shootings after her mother called police telling them she was worried her daughter was depressed. So, Shenecker’s mom saw a sign.
Last November, police came to the Scheckner home after daughter Calyx told a counselor at school that her mother had repeatedly hit her in the face. The police went to the home, but did not find enough evidence to press charges. So, a counselor saw a sign.
That same month, Schenecker was involved in a traffic accident and was suspected to have been drug impaired, but was not given a field test and left the hospital before a test could be administered. So, the police saw a sign.
Plenty of people missed the big, neon signs that flashed loud and clear that this family was in crisis. Tragically, there were so many missed opportunities to connect dots, fill in gaps and help this mom…and these kids. Looking out for one another is tricky, we walk the fine line between minding our own business and taking responsibility for helping each other. So, what would YOU do MAMAs, if you knew someone was in trouble?